Tuesday, February 19, 2013

Quotes

There seems to be a lot of people in two week waits right now: the two week wait before your first beta, two week wait before your first ultrasound.... and then of course there are those of us who have recently suffered miscarriages.  Or those that are waiting for their next procedure.

Wait.  Maybe I'm reading about these things so much because I am, (ahem) oh yeah,  addicted to reading about them!

Well, anyways, I always love a good quote.  I think quotes can be really powerful if you really take in their meaning.  So here's one for those of you in your two week wait:


I've been there.  During the 9 weeks, 5 days that I was pregnant, I was constantly afraid of what could go wrong and never fully appreciated the time I did get to be pregnant.  At this point, I can at least look back and know that I DID get pregnant.  My husband and I did at least get to experience a short time of picking out baby names and planning the nursery.  We DID get to experience the joy of telling his parents.  Those are things we've never had before.  Yes, we experienced heartache over our loss, but I am so grateful for the brief moments we got, even though I never fully appreciated them at the time because I was too afraid.

Heck, even now, I'm afraid for our future FET and that our little embabies might not even survive the freeze.  I'm afraid that we won't even get that chance.  But I am trying to keep in mind that we at least HAVE those two frozen embabies.  That is our chance right there.

Lastly, here is a quote that I think all of us could apply.  Maybe I'm presumptuous in saying that, but I think that most of us who suffer from infertility get caught up in how badly we WANT a baby.


Let's not forget all the amazing, wonderful things we DO have in our lives.  I know for me, I have a husband that I love very much and who loves me back.  I have an awesome sister that has gone so far as to give me a part of herself in order to help make my dreams come true.  I have a family that loves and supports me.  I have had an amazing opportunity to coach softball the past 20 years and be a part of something bigger than myself when it comes to coaching such incredible young ladies.  I know I have made a difference in a lot of their lives and that is pretty dang awesome.

I forget all of this sometimes and I need to remind myself of the things I DO have, rather than dwell on the things that I don't.

What are all the things that YOU have to be grateful for in your life?

28 comments:

  1. I forget this stuff too. I always focus on the fact that I have never once been pregnant and why should this time be any different? Some good quotes to think about. I also forget the fact that I am going through this with an amazing guy, my one and only partner in life and it really has brought us closer and I am thankful you could remind me of this. I am not ready to accept the fact that I may not ever have a baby, but I would rather be childless with my husband, than have many children alone.

    Still thinking about you and your recent loss. Hugs.

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    1. Hugs right back at you! Did you feel that? Yep, that was my hug :)

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  2. Thanks for posting these quotes! "Happiness is a journey, not a destination.
    For a long time it seemed to me that life was about to begin - real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, a debt to be paid. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life. This perspective has helped me to see there is no way to happiness.
    Happiness is the way.
    So treasure every moment you have and remember that time waits for no one."
    ~ Souza

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  3. I have so much to be grateful for, it almost makes it worse when I feel bad because I feel like I should be able to haul myself out of it. My husband, my friends and family, everything about our life is good. It's just this one thing, the stupid infertility, that drags us down. I wish I could take these reminder quotes to heart, but it's so hard sometimes.

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  4. Agreed! It definitely is super hard sometimes. Don't forget that it is okay to have a pity party every once in awhile too. I think it's important, because it does make is appreciate the good things more. I tell my softball girls all the time that it is okay to feel sorry for yourself and have a pity party, but put a time limit on it. Then kick yourself in the butt and get over it.

    Hang in there. We're all in this together!!

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  5. I needed this! Thank you so much! You are so strong and amazing. THANK YOU!

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    1. Aww, you are very welcome! And thank YOU for your very kind words :)

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  6. Thanks for this post. I really needed it since I have been feeling especially negative today. I am going to try and be in a better, more positive mood tomorrow.
    The first quote especially resonates with me. I am constantly expecting the worst. I can't really control infertility, but I feel like thinking that way with other aspects of my life might just be a self-fulfilling prophecy. If I expect the bad thing to happen, I don't do what is necessary to make the good thing happen. I am going to try to focus on what is right in my life this week.

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  7. I'm sorry you've been feeling pretty low lately, but I'm glad this post and these quotes might help! I know it is a good reminder for me to see things like this sometimes, so I just thought I would share with all of you. Here's a big squeezie hug for you!

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  8. these quotes are just really good reminders. thank you!

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    1. You're welcome! I know I personally need those reminders sometimes.

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  9. My favorite quote "Every day is just ONE day." Each day brings with it a whole host of possibilities and new beginnings. :)

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    1. That is a good quote too! Thanks for sharing :)

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  10. I just love quotes too! I also love your positivity, you are an inspiration :)

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    1. Thank you! I love reading your blog as well. You have a pretty positive outlook on life and I love that.

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  11. I love quotes! I posted on earlier last night of just a quote, and then un-posted it. These are great reminders; thank you!!

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    1. I know! I saw it in my blogger feed and went to read it, but then your quote wasn't there! Why did you remove it?

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    2. I found one I liked better- :-)

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  12. Amber I love these quotes and you are just awesome :)

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    1. Thank you :) I really appreciate that!

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  13. Thank you so much for this. I am constantly thinking each month that it won't work when I should be thinking about the possibility of getting that BFP :-)

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  14. What a truly fantastic post. Riddled with awesomeness.

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  15. Thanks for this excellent reminder. The first quote especially hit home. As always, I admire your positivity.

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  16. I admire your attitude so much and I love these quotes.

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  17. Ditto!! You are a very positive, inspirational human being!!! If some of the younger family members need a hero, I am sending them your way! Auntie

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