Wednesday, October 7, 2015

Just A Little Bitter

We had arranged for Tony's parents to come stay overnight with the babies this weekend so we could have a belated date night to celebrate our anniversary.  This would have been our first time leaving the kids overnight with someone else.  Our plan was to stop at Babies R Us to do some Christmas shopping on our way to Portland for the evening.  Then we were going to go to a comedy club, something we'd never done before.  What I was most looking forward to was our hotel stay and being able to sleep in as loooonnnnggggg as I wanted in the morning.  I think we also really could have used that husband and wife adult time, by ourselves.

Instead, Tony will be leaving early tomorrow morning and catching a plane to Mexico for a mission trip with his work company.  The purpose of the trip is to help fit hearing aids to those in need, that are living in poverty.  This is something that his company does at least once/year in different areas around the world, but it's the first time that Tony has been invited to go.  He was asked only two weeks ago, which means we've had to scramble to get everything lined up so he can go.  The scramble: getting a passport expedited. 

Tony tried to contact the post office in Eugene, which issues passports, but they NEVER returned his phone call.  He actually went into the post office directly, but they told him he had to call to schedule an appointment.  Of course it's only an automated answering system when he calls.  Dead end.  We went to the post office here in town, but they couldn't do an 8-10 day expedite.  They would have needed 4 weeks.

So Tony's only option was to make a 5 hour drive to Seattle to have one issued. He left after work last Monday and stayed overnight at a friend's house so that he only another 3 hours to drive Tuesday morning.  His appointment was at 10:30am in Seattle.  He was then given the option of coming back on Thursday to pick up his passport, or hang around in Seattle to pick it up that afternoon.  Taking another day off work and driving back and forth to pick up his passport wasn't an option, so it turned into another night of me solo parenting because he got home so late that night.  But, passport was in hand!

He would have chosen not to go on this trip if I'd asked him to, but that's just not something I would have done.  This is an amazing opportunity that he gets to be a part of and who knows when and if he will ever be given the opportunity again.  If I were him, I would have wanted to go, so I wasn't about to hold him back from it.

While I'm definitely not mad about it, I can't help but feel a little bitter disappointment.  Instead of our overnight anniversary date, I will be solo parenting for another 5 days.  The babies and I will be spending Saturday night at Tony's parents (which I am not looking forward to), and they will then babysit Sunday for a few hours so that I can go watch a few softball games without the kids in tow (which I AM looking forward to).  I appreciate the chance to spend a few hours by myself watching some of the players we once coached now play in their college softball games, it is very small potatoes in comparison to actually having an overnight anniversary date and a chance to ADULT.

On top of that, it's not even something we can reschedule.  The money we had set aside for our night in Portland has been spent on expediting his passport, paying airport parking and luggage fees, and any other incidentals that come up.  Sigh.

Monday, October 5, 2015

Weekend Family Fun

Normally I would try to do a #MicroblogMonday post today, but this post isn't what I would consider micro.

The Columbia River divides Oregon and Washington, and Tony's brother and his family live up the Columbia River Gorge on the Washington side.  Tony's parents just recently finished having a house (a second home) built up there and this past weekend was the first sleepover in the new house.

We had arranged our travel plans so that we would leave on Friday right after lunch, timing it so that Ayden and Rylee could sleep for most of the drive because it would be during their nap time. (It's about a 4 hour drive)  The plan was for Tony to take the afternoon off work, and we would swing by his office and pick him up on our way out of town.  We were supposed to pick him up at Noon, but I had to send him a text at 11:40 to let him know we were running late. I spent the morning trying to get everything packed, while also making sure that two toddlers were entertained.  While they ate lunch, I got most everything loaded in the car.  When they were done, I quickly got them cleaned up and got one of the high chairs loaded as well.  (There's already one booster seat at the new house)  I put them in fresh diapers for the road and got their shoes on.  Right as I was rushing them out the door (is that possible with toddlers?), I discovered that Ayden had poopy britches.  Of course.  So I took his shoes back off and got his diaper changed.  Again.  Shoes back on, out the door, and both of them in their car seats.  Phew!

But then...When I got to the end of our road, I found it completely blocked off!  They had just repaved the road.  What the...!!!?!???  So I sat at the end of the road (fuming) and called the City Public Works.  I was told that notices were put on everyone's doors a few days prior and that the road wouldn't be opened until about 5:00pm.  I gave them an earful about how we hadn't gotten a notice.

I turned around and went back home.  Then I tried putting Ayden and Rylee down for their naps, but they really wanted nothing to do with that.  They weren't too pleased with our short car ride and then being ushered back into the house and immediately put down for naps.  I called Tony to tell him that we couldn't get out.  He didn't believe me that they could completely block us in, so he called the City as well.  He ended up driving home, parking up the road, and walking the rest of the way to our house.  We waited it out till we could leave. During that wait, we found Ayden playing with a bright orange piece of paper.  We have absolutely no idea where he found it, but apparently we DID in fact get a notice.  Oops.

We eventually made it to Washington for our weekend of family fun.  Ayden and Rylee absolutely LOVE spending time with their grandparents.  Ayden's favorite word is "Gampa."

Saturday morning was spent hanging out at the new house.  Ayden discovered he was finally tall enough to step on the gas pedal in their jeep, so he and Rylee rode up and down the street for at least a good hour.  Grandma wrapped a "hat"(a dish towel) around Rylee's head because it was a very chilly morning.

 That afternoon we went to the BIL's house for our niece's 8th birthday party.  Ayden proved to be a handful at the party, throwing lots of little temper tantrums because we kept deterring him from all the things he wanted to do (like climb under the house, go down the raging river that sits below their house, get in the way of the other kids swinging a stick at the pinata...).  Rylee enjoyed running all over as well, but without the temper tantrums.

She enjoyed learning how to be a sidewalk chalk artist from the older girls.

After the party, bil took us to see their property and the new house they are building.  Ayden and Rylee got to see the horses and get a ride on the tractor.  They both love animals, but especially Rylee.  Ayden tends to be a little more tentative.

Rylee walking with the birthday girl

Getting to sit on a horse for the very first time.

Ayden's uncle introducing him to Wally.
Ayden wasn't so sure about the headphones covering his ears!

Rylee got to ride the tractor too.

On Sunday, we all went on a trip down the Columbia River on a sternwheeler to celebrate MIL's 60th birthday.  We went on a morning cruise down the river that was over about Noon.  Afterward, we let the kids play at the park that was nearby before we all headed home.  The road trip home was uneventful, but perfect timing for Ayden and Rylee to nap!


Ayden got to sit in the Captain's seat and "drive" the boat.

The weekend got off to a rocky start and it was very busy, but it was a great family weekend.  The older cousins really enjoy playing with Ayden and Rylee, and it was great fun for the adults getting to watch them all play and giggle together.

Thursday, October 1, 2015

Consignment Success!

This may not even remotely be interesting to anyone else, but I thought I'd share my finds! As a consignor at the sale, you are invited to shop the pre-sale before the actual event opens to the public the next day.  As a volunteer, you get to shop even earlier the day of the pre-sale, based on how many shifts you volunteer for.  My MIL made the trip down to babysit Ayden and Rylee so I could go to the pre-sale that afternoon.

A few days before the pre-sale, I went through all of Ayden and Rylee's clothes to figure out what they needed going into the winter months.  Ayden was in desperate need of warmer pajamas and Rylee needed some long sleeve shirts.  Other than that, they were already pretty set and I mostly was just on the hunt for good deals. I love to find great deals on the next size clothing items that I can put up, so we are ready when they do grow out of things.  I have bins in my closet full of clothes just waiting for Ayden and Rylee to grow into.  I'm not the most organized person, but I do keep this organized!

Here's what I found at the pre-sale for Ayden:

  • 6 pairs of pajamas
  • 2 zip up hoody sweatshirts
  • 1 pair of jeans
  • 1 polo shirt
  •  2 button up dress shirts
  • 3 button up shirts w/ built in sleeves for the "layered" look
  • 1 sweater vest
  • 1 pair of corduroy pants
  • 1 pair of black dress shoes

Ayden's pj's

His other clothes

For Rylee:
  • 1 pajama set
  • 2 zip up sweatshirts
  • 8 tops
  • 7 pairs of leggings
  • 3 pairs of jeans/pants
  • 1 jean skirt
  • 1 jean jacket vest (the cutest!)
  • 3 dresses/tunics
  • 3 pair of tennis shoes

Rylee's pants and pj's

All her shirts, dresses, jean skirt and jacket

All but the Beaver hoody cost ONLY $1 each!!!

Deal of the day: the white adidas with orignial tags, never worn - only $5!

Other items that weren't clothes:
  • Little People Parking Gargage  (only $5!  How could I pass that up?  Every other similar toy there, people were asking a minimum of $25)
  • 1 book
  • 1 blueray movie - Happy Feet
  • 2 puzzles (for my nephew's birthday coming up)
  • Baseball glove (I had to!)

On Saturday, I was scheduled to volunteer at Noon.  I went in early because it was half price day.  Some people choose not to discount their items for half price day, but most items are.  I was able to find a few more things, spending only .50 or $1 on any one item.

For Rylee I found:
  • 2 pairs of pajama's
  • a pair of fleece sweatpants
  • black leggings
  • a dress with diaper cover
  • 1 shirt
For Ayden:
  • a pair of black slacks
  • long john pants
  • a long sleeve button up dress shirt
  • short sleeve button up shirt
  • 3 basic, plain t-shirts good for playing outside in the dirt or for crafting

All the half price deals

Overall, I spent a grand total of $131 on all this stuff.  However, as a consignor I reached my goal and MADE $308, so I came out way ahead on this deal!  

Friday, September 25, 2015

Infertile Mommy Blogger

Look at me posting 2 days in a row!  Oh, and 3 times in ONE WEEK!  I can't even remotely remember the last time that has happened.  Go me!

I just finished reading Jane's post Not Just Another Mommy Blogger, and I couldn't have said it better myself.  No really, I couldn't.  I've tried.  Jane has eloquently addressed how so many in the infertile blogging world stop posting after finally attaining motherhood, out of fear of becoming "just another mommy blogger."

We have such a strong community of support within our blogging community during our infertility journey.  I definitely understand bloggers dropping off once their little one(s) arrive, because it does become more challenging to find time to write.  Many have even said they don't have much to say because their inspiration before babies came from the dark trenches of infertility.  Based on the response from my I'm Drowing post, it would seem that many of us have dark days in parenting as well.  So many of you commented that you had been feeling the same way as I was, drowning in the loneliness that mommyhood can bring. I know there are also days that I struggle not to strangle to keep may cool, when my Littles have a bad day.  We NEED continued support through this parenting gig just as much as we did through our journey to get our take home babies.

So, as Jane pleaded with her readers, please don't stop writing out of fear of being labeled as "just another mommy blogger."  Not only do I look to you all to commiserate in parenting and learn from those that have gone down the toddlerhood road before me, I am also vested in following your everyday life as well.  I love hearing reading about your vacations, your jobs, remodels, or whatever else you choose to write about.  If you stop writing simply because you can't find the time anymore, or simply lose interest, I get that.  But please, I beg of you, if the only thing keeping you from writing is because you "don't know where your blog is going," just write as you always have.  Just keep being my friend.

Thursday, September 24, 2015

21 Months

Yesterday Rylee and Ayden turned 21 months old and they now are only 3 months away from their second birthday!  Doh!  It's already so hard to think back and believe they were such tiny little babies in the NICU.  Whenever I see a newborn now that is about 7 or 8 pounds, I am shocked at how little they seem and to know that Ayden and Rylee were actually quite a bit smaller!  How is it that I already can't remember that?  It seems like forever ago, but yet it was only 21 months ago.

It's also crazy to watch them play outside now, and to think back to when we first moved into this house back in April and how they struggled to stay upright when walking in the grass, or how they would fall over the slightest bit of decline in the driveway.  They change so much in such a short time period!

Here's a few pics from being outside yesterday morning.  We have a gopher that has completely destroyed the yard.

At least the gopher mounds are good for something!

I have no idea what the stats are for either of them.  We don't have a scale at home (with a battery) and they haven't been to the doctor since their 18 month check up, so they haven't been weighed or measured.  I do know that Rylee is in size 4 diapers and Ayden is in size 5. Rylee is wearing 18 month clothing, but beginning to move into 18-24 month outfits.  Ayden is wearing 18 month pants, but seems to have a really long torso so is moving into size 2T shirts.  All of his 18-24 month t-shirts fit, other than they keep creeping up so he's starting to show off his belly!

Both of them are starting to say more and more words.  Rylee's favorite words are no, gobble-gobble, baby, and uh-oh.  She answers "no" to everything!  Ask her if she wants milk and she answers no.  Do you want to go outside?  No.  Do you want to go play?  No.  Silly girl. We know very well that she means a resounding yes to those things!  She does know how to use the word no in the right context too, though.  If her brother takes something from her, she emphatically yells nooooo!

We still have those wild turkeys that roam around town.  Whenever Rylee sees them, she starts saying gobble-gobble.  If she is being a little stinker throwing her food on the floor during meals (which is every meal!  Gahhh!) and I call her a turkey, she replies with gobble-gobble.  Now I call her a turkey just so she'll say it and make me laugh with her cuteness so I don't get so irate about the food throwing, which is really getting old.

As of just a few days ago, Rylee started saying uh-oh.  I dropped a fork on the floor during dinner the other day and said it, and she started saying it over and over.  Now she says it whenever anything gets dropped and it is the cutest thing ever!  

Rylee also says, nigh-nigh (night-night), heyo (hello), hi, and bye.

Ayden is still delayed in his language skills, but he does say baby, nigh-nigh, hi, and bye-bye.  He also says "gah" for both car and dog.  He actually loves to have conversations with people and talks up a storm.  He has a lot to say, if only we knew what it was he was trying to tell us.

Ayden continues to show us new things that we have to baby proof around the house.  He is constantly getting into everything.  His latest thing is to take the bottom door hinge out of our front door.  Now, how the heck are we supposed to baby proof that????  Ayden has also learned how to open the doors to our entertainment center.  As soon as we leave the room, that's where he goes.  He likes to look through the dvd's and better yet, he likes to mess with the cable box.  Sigh....  I know these will be wonderful qualities when he gets older, but in a toddler, they are exhausting!

Being outside is probably Ayden and Rylee's absolute favorite thing to do.  It will be sad to see the cold, rainy Oregon weather that is coming.  We do now have rain boots and rain jackets though, so I am hoping we can still go outside some.  Who doesn't love splashing through mud puddles?

Summer Fun

Rylee discovered the thrill of drenching her brother

Oregon Coast

At Heceta Head on the Oregon Coast

Ayden has really gotten into playing with trucks and cars in the last month or so.  He sometimes sits and inspects the wheels, as if he's trying to figure out how they work.  Both Ayden and Rylee really like the baby doll they have.  We actually have two, but one had to be put up because it has hair, which Ayden still likes to try to eat.  Rylee likes to wrap the baby up in her blanket.  They also enjoy playing with their Mega Bloks.  Their favorite books are Little Blue Truck, Bubbles Bubbles, Five Little Monkeys, and a big animal picture book.

Their favorite shows/movies to watch on Netflix are Mickey Mouse's Three Muskateers, Curious George, Number Land (by Leap Frog), and Kipper.  I try not to let them watch too much tv, but we do watch it first thing in the morning while they enjoy their morning milk sippy.  Other than that, sometimes throughout the day it just becomes necessary!  Shoot me for saying it, but if Ayden wakes up early from nap, turning on the tv is the ONLY way I can keep him from running in to wake up Rylee.  If I try to distract him with something else, he just cries and screams so he ends up waking her up anyway.  Sooooo, we turn on a tv show instead.  It's also become the only way I can get dinner cooked some nights without having them whine and cry at my feet.  Their latest thing is to yank on my shorts/pants while I'm cooking, effectively pulling them down.  In order for me to keep my pants on while attempting to make dinner, I sometimes choose to turn the tv on so that I can keep my sanity.

This kept them occupied instead of the tv one night while I made dinner.
It only worked once though!

While many aspects of toddlerhood are driving me crazy, I wouldn't trade it for the world.  They make us giggle with delight at the new things they learn and they melt our hearts with the warm snuggles and kisses that they freely share.

He found Daddy's letterman jacket from high school.

She had to try it on too!

So much cuteness!

She melts me.

Mr. Personality

She makes the greatest sad/mad faces!  Don't worry though, she quickly got over it when I helped get her boot unstuck from the bucket!

He found an ink pen....

Twin Love!

Helping Mommy with the grocery shopping.

Monday, September 21, 2015

Microblog Monday: Consignment Sale

This week is our local consignment sale.  It's something that I got involved with when we first moved here.  I figured it gives me a great opportunity to get rid of a lot of things that Ayden and Rylee have outgrown, and I make money to buy them new (to us) things.  Not only did I participate as a consigner, but I also volunteered for the sale.  I thought it might be a great way to get involved and potentially meet other moms.  As it turned out, I didn't really meet and connect with anyone this way, but I still really enjoyed the sale and basically got all of Ayden and Rylee's summer wardrobe needs taken care of.

The past two weeks have been incredibly busy going through all of their outgrown clothes, doing inventory, hanging, and tagging everything.  I'm also getting rid of a ton of blankets and toys, in addition to a few other things.

The pre-sale starts Wednesday, and I can't wait!  I'm so excited to go shopping, but I'm also a really big nerd that loves to get the daily updates showing all the items of mine that have sold!  My goal is to make $300 with this sale, which is about double what I made on the last one.

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Monday, September 14, 2015

Microblog Monday: 18 Years

Yesterday marked 18 years that Tony and I have been married.  We have known each other for 23 years, more than half our lives!  We didn't do anything special yesterday other than spending time with each other and our kids.  So, it was the perfect day!

Tony's mom will be making a trip here on Wednesday to watch the kids so we can go out for a few hours.  We'll probably only go to dinner somewhere, but even something simple will be nice because we get the opportunity so rarely.  Next month, we are actually planning our first overnight away together!  His parents are going to come spend the night here with the kiddos, and we are going to head to Portland for our official anniversary celebration.  We are thinking about going to a comedy club, something we've never done before.  What I am MOST excited about is sleeping in the next morning!!!!  Yay!  I've been up since 3:30am today.  Ayden didn't sleep last night from 3:30-5:30, and Miss Rylee chose today to wake up earlier than normal at 5:45.  Yay!  Not really yay.

18 years ago, when we were still babies

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