Thursday, June 27, 2013

Ultrasound #3

Yesterday was my third ultrasound.  We still have two babies with two heartbeats!  Whew!!!!!

I must admit, I'm a little confused as to which one is Twin A and which one is Twin B, because the doctors seem to have switched them around.  I guess it doesn't really matter.  One of them is measuring 7w, 6d with a heartbeat of 171.  The other baby measured at 7w, 1d with a heartbeat of 155.  Dr. A said both looked great!  Of course, I can't help but worry that the one seems a bit behind.  I know the hb is in a normal range, but why is it measuring so much smaller?  Sigh. 

On Monday, I had my intake appointment at my new OB.  I didn't actually meet the OB, but with a nurse.  This was pretty much to just go over medical history.  It's difficult to explain the pregnancy and how far along I am because it's an FET.  On the questionnaire, it asks for the date of your last menstrual cycle.  This is how they figure out how far along you are...in normal circumstances.  I wrote April 29th, but had to explain that wasn't the date we would be using.  I also gave them the date May 24th, which was our FET date.  The nurse had me all screwed up on how far along I am, and I know I came across as completely scatterbrained.  I felt completely ridiculous because it just wasn't adding up!  What I didn't remember until driving home later (of course), was that on the date of transfer, the babes were already 6 day old blastocysts.  Gah!  Now she probably thinks I'm some big airhead, but oh well.

Let's not forget that she started off the appointment by saying "I see that you are due on August 23rd."  Ummm, noooooooooo.....  She had the paperwork that had been sent to them from my clinic for my previous pregnancy.  I informed her that I hadn't made it to my intake appointment with that pregnancy before I had my miscarriage.  She said "I wondered why you were just now getting around to coming to see us."

Overall, the appointment actually went pretty good and she was nice.  It was just very awkward working all the details out about the FET.  My current file hadn't been sent to them from my RE yet, because I hadn't officially graduated.

As of yesterday though, I am done at my clinic.  It's kind of sad really, not to have another appointment with them.  They gave me a gift bag as a congratulations before sending me on my way.  It included a nice big pregnancy book with a week by week guide from conception to birth, and TWO silver baby spoons, one for each baby.  I thought that was really nice.

While I am SO extremely excited that everything looked good for both babies yesterday, I cannot help but still be apprehensive.  I was really looking forward to reaching the second trimester and hopefully being able to relax a little at that time.  But then today, I have a fellow friend from a support group that is also pregnant with twins that got bad news.  She was very excited for her OB appointment today because she was going to find out the gender of her babies.  What she found out was that they are boy/girl, but that the girl has some serious complications and is not developing as she should.  The doctor told her that they would most likely lose the girl within the next couple weeks.  The boy is growing perfectly.  My heart is broken for her.  This just goes to show that we can never truly know how things will turn out until we actually have those babies in our arms.

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  1. you are so right anything can happen! but the best thing is to stay positive. i have been dying for an update and this is a beautiful one. oh amber i am so very happy for you and cannot wait for future posts. this has been a long journey for you and i am glad to see you moving to the other side!!!!

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    1. Thank you so much! I appreciate you being in my cheering section, more than words can say. I hope to soon be doing the same for you as well.

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  2. Oh that is marvelous! So glad the babies are doing well. I feel for your friend...can't imagine what she's going through. Life isn't fair.

    ((Hugs)) to you and best wishes.

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    1. Thanks Sarah. I can't really imagine the heartache she's going through either. It's horrible. The good news is that she does have one healthy baby still growing. Hugs back to you!

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  3. So happy to hear the babies are doing well!!!! :) :) Baby A is always the one closest to the cervix. They can look like they are on different sides on the ultrasound depending if they are doing a stomach ultrasound or Mr. Dildocam or just positioning. But Baby A is still the same. :)

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    1. That's what I thought, but they definitely switched them from the first ultrasound to the second and third. At the first u/s, baby A didn't have a heartbeat yet. I would assume that Baby A would be the one measuring smaller and with the slower heartbeat, but they switched it around. I commented on that at the 2nd u/s, and they said, "okay, we can call this one Baby A instead." Makes it very confusing! haha!

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  4. Glad everything went so well. I'm sure it is confusing not having the dates with the FET. Hopefully you won't have to try to explain it again. I was pretty confused by the a and b thing at first too.

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    1. It definitely is confusing to figure out the dates for those not familiar with the process. Trying to explain it made it even more confusing for the both of us! lol

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  5. Ohhh beautiful. So glad to hear everything is going swimmingly. In no time, my friend, you will be a family of four. ;)

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  6. This makes me so happy! You guys deserve all the happiness in the world after what you've been through. I know there's still a while to go before you can relax fully but you're doing great and I just know things are going to work out!

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    1. Thank you so much. I need those positive words of encouragement!

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  7. Glad your appointment went well, wahoo!

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    1. Wahoo is right! Hopefully many many more whoops along the way as well.

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  8. I know akward situations come up, but really she actuallly said outloud 'your due date is August 23rd' not realised that you're not 8 monhts preggers by looking at you? Hello, think before opening mouth! "I was wondering why it look you so long to see us" was a clever cover-up, but also comes accross as insensitive. Anyway, such sweet and throughtful gifts from your RE's office! I'm glad things are progressing well!

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    1. That's what I thought! Did I really look that far along? Wow, I knew I had more weight to lose, but didn't think I looked that bad! lol She actually was a very nice nurse, but it was definitely awkward to say the least.

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  9. I was so excited to see an update from you Amber!! This is such wonderful news, I'm so glad to hear everything is going well. Double the joy with twins :) I'm so sorry to hear about your friend, I just can't even imagine the pain.

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  10. I'm so excited for you Amber! The gifts from your RE were really sweet. I hope that everything continues to progress well! <3

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    1. I was surprised to get the gifts. Our first baby gifts! :)

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  11. So sorry about your friend! I can't imagine how she is feeling.. Will keep her in my prayers.. Your appt went soo great, I am so thrilled for you! You are so right though, that apprehension is there until you are holding them, then a whooole other kind starts, it never ends! But it is soo worth it. I was dying for an update too, so glad to read a great one!

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    1. Oh I have no doubts the apprehensions will just take on a whole new dimension when the babies actually get here! I just keep praying that we will get to that point!

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  12. Glad things continue to go well! I was confused on how to count after a fresh transfer, so I'm sure it is just as (if not more) confusing for an FET.

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    1. You'd think it would be easier, since we have exact dates! But...nothing about this process is easy :)

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  13. This post just makes me so happy for you! I just knew there would be 2 heartbeats!!! While my BFP wasn't a FET I still had the nurse who was young all confused too.

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    1. Thank you! Keep thinking those positive thoughts that those 2 heartbeats continue to grow into two beautiful babies!

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  14. I am so happy to hear that everything is going well for you. I know it is hard not to worry about what the future may hold for you and the babies though. I really have a good feeling for you this time around! xo

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    1. Thank you so much. I need all the good vibes I can get, because I struggle to have them for myself! Ugh! I really appreciate it!

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  15. Woohoo! so excited for you. Mine were measuring about a week apart for awhile, but seemed to have evened out now. Doctors all said it's nothing to worry about. I know baby A is the one closer to the cervix but mine seem to be more side by side than top and bottom so I still have no idea of Baby A vs Baby B. I'm assuming they'll work it out in there somehow.
    Can your RE give you a more accurate due date? Mine gave me the date of my last period to use when I went to the OB even though it wasn't the actual date of my last period. They just calculated due date based on the date of retrieval then counted backwards. Thankfully that made it much easier because it is so confusing.

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    1. It's reassuring to hear that about your babies, and that they are both doing well! It's near impossible to not be scared through this process!

      I have a due date, I was just so incredibly exhausted and confused that day. It's so confusing to explain to someone else!

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    1. Thank you! I love that all of you offer me such encouragement. It really means so much!

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  17. Amber I'm just so happy for you!

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    1. Thanks Risa! Hopefully I'll be cheering for you soon as well!

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  18. I get so excited to see that you have posted something as I think of you daily
    and more!! Such great news!!! Praying that you will be able to relax and just enjoy the pregnancy soon! Very sorry to hear about your friend. It's as much of a loss as if you would have had a chance to hold them but bittersweet with another healthy baby coming!! May she be able to enjoy the rest of her pregnancy too!!! Hoping to hear from you soon with plans of coming down south! Love you and as always, prayers! Auntie

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    1. Two weeks and I'll be in Medford!

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  19. I'm sorry about the confusion at the start of your appointment. (((hugs)))

    But, I am so very, very happy to hear little A and B are doing well! Keep taking things one day at a time. Sending all my best to you and the littles! (Are you on FB? Find me!)

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    1. Thank you Stacie! I appreciate the kind words of encouragement more than I can express.

      Yes, I am on FB! How do I find you? You can email me at pantheramber@gmail.com for my full name so you can look me up!

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  20. Hurray for two beautiful heart beats! Don't worry too much about the difference, if you look at growth charts there's about a 10 day range for each size.

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  21. So happy for you! That due date stuff is incredibly confusing. I could never figure it out. And sorry that the nurse didn't offer much compassion. Ugh.

    Also, so sorry to hear about your friend. My heart is breaking for her.

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    1. The nurse was fine, she just was very confused and I didn't help her very much! It was just....weird. Thank you though!

      It is definitely heartbreaking. I can only imagine what she must be feeling.

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  22. So happy and excited that the ultrasound looked great!!!

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  23. OMG - SO EXCITED FOR YOU!!!!!

    I'll echo the "closer to the cervix" that someone else wrote. That's how we know who it who. It will be more obvious as they get bigger. From what I understand, the closest one to the cervix will always be the closest one. In our case it is our boy.


    SO EXCITED FOR YOU!!!!

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