tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8819142186663515584.post8973471877065332799..comments2024-02-10T00:47:38.876-08:00Comments on Old Lady and No Baby: RegretsAmberhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16507432917936364757noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8819142186663515584.post-6080998897044487332013-04-03T20:08:23.233-07:002013-04-03T20:08:23.233-07:00Awww, Amber! I have to say, nothing that you said...Awww, Amber! I have to say, nothing that you said in this post was new to me and I have never felt that you should have regretted those times. It's called growing up for a reason and to learn and grow up, we have to make mistakes. And sometimes, we even make mistakes when we are "OLD"!!! It's life! But you my dear have ALWAYS been<br />loved and liked for the person that you were and are!!!! And I don't think there is a person that has walked along your path with you would say anything different!!!<br />Auntie Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8819142186663515584.post-2432192629739046512013-03-15T14:02:13.535-07:002013-03-15T14:02:13.535-07:00I intellectually know that it is not punishment, b...I intellectually know that it is not punishment, but it's easy to think that way sometimes. I could have used the prom talk when I was younger too! The thing is that I even knew better at the time, but was still dumb :) oh well. Now I can just use those experiences to hopefully help others.Amberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16507432917936364757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8819142186663515584.post-89892196603030949552013-03-15T13:59:50.230-07:002013-03-15T13:59:50.230-07:00I strongly agree with you that God wouldn't us...I strongly agree with you that God wouldn't use infertility. I know He doesn't work that way, as everything is forgivable. It doesn't stop me from having the thought from crossing my mind occasionally though. As for protection, I'm not sure, but I do like your comment that God is way to smart to forget about making me infertile years ago. I do appreciate your thought provoking words. Thank you so much.Amberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16507432917936364757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8819142186663515584.post-18024542756085371992013-03-13T00:05:46.557-07:002013-03-13T00:05:46.557-07:00You are not being punished with infertility for th...You are not being punished with infertility for the decisions you made when you were young and dumb. We all do stupid things when we're young (and sometimes when we're older and should know better.) Infertility sucks and it's not fair that anyone has to deal with it, but it is NOT a punishment from God. It's the crappy hand that some women draw. Unfortunately, you also got the crappy loss hand which just adds to the suckiness of it all and I'm so sorry you've been hit with a double whammy.<br /><br />I know I could have used your prom talk back in high school or a coach who cared enough to give me one. I'm glad to know your softball girls have you.<br /><br />We all have regrets, but they're also lessons we learn something from, even if the lesson comes years later. Those regrets help make us who we are today and while we wish we could have done things differently, I think we also appreciate that we know who we are now because of them.Anhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12466386185394028783noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8819142186663515584.post-79534111036357417162013-03-12T12:22:16.634-07:002013-03-12T12:22:16.634-07:00This is a really great post for so many reasons. F...This is a really great post for so many reasons. First of all, good for you for seeing your relationship with your team as an opportunity to mentor. I'm sure they will be so grateful for it someday (if they aren't already). Also, I think what you said about infertility being punishment/protection from God is such a common thought. I know that people have lots of different takes on this issue, but I STRONGLY believe that infertility has nothing to do with punishment or protection. First of all, think about all of those girls who get pregnant outside of marriage. And secondly, God is way too smart to just forget that He made you infertile for your protection years ago and let it carry over into your marriage. I wish you peace, wisdom, and comfort on this super tough, long journey.Emhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15069220262683215373noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8819142186663515584.post-31596508550957332662013-03-12T11:14:55.901-07:002013-03-12T11:14:55.901-07:00Thanks! I do feel like I give a lot to my team. ...Thanks! I do feel like I give a lot to my team. I give them my heart! I love those girls and I am so blessed that I get to share this smart part in their lives. I hope that I do make an impact on them, but it's hard to tell sometimes.Amberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16507432917936364757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8819142186663515584.post-65499813261226230782013-03-12T11:12:54.041-07:002013-03-12T11:12:54.041-07:00I've been wondering if regret is the wrong wor...I've been wondering if regret is the wrong word to use, because I definitely appreciate who I am today as a result of the things in my growing up years. However, at the end of the day, I do still wish some things were different. Maybe regret is too harsh a word, but I'd be lying if I said I didn't regret a few things. I don't really spend very much time thinking about those things. Hardly at all actually, as it seems like a totally different lifetime, or person, when I think back to those years. And yes, it really is just crappy luck! Thank you for commenting. It's so nice to help get perspective from others.Amberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16507432917936364757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8819142186663515584.post-79881725051756947492013-03-12T01:06:52.202-07:002013-03-12T01:06:52.202-07:00this is such a beautiful vulnerable post. thank yo...this is such a beautiful vulnerable post. thank you for sharing. walks help the mind settle. you give me so much to the kids on your team. they will remember you foreverPuzzle peacehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02970158904527521977noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8819142186663515584.post-61649379795140922632013-03-11T18:03:26.793-07:002013-03-11T18:03:26.793-07:00I needed your prom talk as well. I definitely was ...I needed your prom talk as well. I definitely was much more wild in my teens/early twenty than you. I don't have any regrets about the choices I made because I wouldn't be the person am I today without them. Who knows how much different decisions could have changed your life. No use having regrets. Also, there's nothing you did to deserve infertility, it's just really crappy luck. Lizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16622876789284884234noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8819142186663515584.post-78536913921553726462013-03-11T14:26:22.555-07:002013-03-11T14:26:22.555-07:00Thanks for sharing. I know it's terrible, but...Thanks for sharing. I know it's terrible, but it's nice to know I wasn't the only one to make those dumb mistakes. The problem is, I don't think it's that rare unfortunately. I think everyone has things they wish they could go back and do over again, but you are right, those mistakes make us who we are today.Amberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16507432917936364757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8819142186663515584.post-89570220600790388712013-03-11T13:25:12.016-07:002013-03-11T13:25:12.016-07:00I wish I had someone like you around to give me a ...I wish I had someone like you around to give me a "prom talk". I also had unprotected sex in high school and feel so incredibly lucky that I didn't end up pregnant in high school. Seriously, I was smarter than that. I was also sort of a goody tooshoos. Probably still am. I tried pot once. Never smoked cigarettes. I would drink at parties (the rare ones I went to) but never got drunk. I was always too afraid because I saw what drugs and alcohol could do to people. I look back and regret some of the choices I made but then I realize I might not be here with my husband if I had taken a different path. So I have to be happy that whatever choices I made led me here. All you can do is use your experiences to help others along the way.JenShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00056681492831041470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8819142186663515584.post-15899134406748522892013-03-11T08:37:01.245-07:002013-03-11T08:37:01.245-07:00It almost always feels so much better once you jus...It almost always feels so much better once you just get moving! It was nice to just be able to spend time with my own thoughts for a little bit. I hope your own good cry had some healing power for you. I am super excited for you as you are getting ready for your IVF #2. I am looking forward to seeing those Cancun pictures too!Amberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16507432917936364757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8819142186663515584.post-89073901623477348582013-03-11T08:34:19.894-07:002013-03-11T08:34:19.894-07:00I do know that, but it is hard not to let your min...I do know that, but it is hard not to let your mind wander down that road sometimes. Thank you so much for your kind words. I truly appreciate them.Amberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16507432917936364757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8819142186663515584.post-25687389271646023632013-03-11T08:32:52.105-07:002013-03-11T08:32:52.105-07:00Thank you so much! If I can help them avoid some ...Thank you so much! If I can help them avoid some of the same mistakes, then I've done my job. Amberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16507432917936364757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8819142186663515584.post-45629837485318726172013-03-11T08:30:08.850-07:002013-03-11T08:30:08.850-07:00I do know that, although it is hard sometimes not ...I do know that, although it is hard sometimes not to wonder.... I do try to use my experiences to hopefully help others. Thank you for your kind words. They mean a lot.Amberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16507432917936364757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8819142186663515584.post-58698501695982096342013-03-11T08:28:25.548-07:002013-03-11T08:28:25.548-07:00haha! We just TP'd. However, we used a LOT o...haha! We just TP'd. However, we used a LOT of toilet paper! The amazing thing is I never, ever had anyone get me back. Maybe it was because I lived with my Grandparents my Junior and Senior year and they had too much respect for them. I don't know, but the only time I ever had to clean up tp was when we got caught once.Amberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16507432917936364757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8819142186663515584.post-74978229518738762922013-03-11T07:21:34.368-07:002013-03-11T07:21:34.368-07:00It's such a good feeling to be out in the fres...It's such a good feeling to be out in the fresh air and just let your feelings go. I had a good cry this weekend too. It's good to release those tears, and sometimes release pent up emotions too. <br /><br />You sound like a strong, inspiring woman and I know your children will be lucky to have you as a MomGypsy Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13026496787029080243noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8819142186663515584.post-55587463471943480942013-03-11T06:44:08.820-07:002013-03-11T06:44:08.820-07:00I was thinking exactly the same thing as Sadie sai...I was thinking exactly the same thing as Sadie said, you know you are not being punished for anything you have done. God is a forgiving God and he knows what is best for us. You are an incredibly great example to those young girls :) You should be so proud of where you are from where you came. Amiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04738442092989090297noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8819142186663515584.post-74343544790919051542013-03-11T05:00:03.299-07:002013-03-11T05:00:03.299-07:00It's remarkable to look back on our pasts and ...It's remarkable to look back on our pasts and wonder how things would be different if we had made different choices or our luck had turned out differently. I think maybe one of the reasons that you're so famous for your prom talk is because you've been right where a lot of those girls are and made the wrong choices, and you can see how lucky you were but can tell them they might not be so lucky. I think they're lucky to have you as a coach and mentor, though!Aramishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12275274008426941898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8819142186663515584.post-23531734028560308052013-03-11T03:35:14.594-07:002013-03-11T03:35:14.594-07:00I know you already know this, but none of what you...I know you already know this, but none of what you're experiencing now is any kind of 'punishment' for anything you could have done before. No one deserves this. You certainly don't. I think that our pasts are there to help us be better people in the present and future, and you are obviously doing that not only for yourself but for others too. You should be proud! Happy training for the 10k, very impressive! Sadiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14325203869605294768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8819142186663515584.post-29146105071977795282013-03-10T23:55:23.437-07:002013-03-10T23:55:23.437-07:00I don't think it's possible to have the sl...I don't think it's possible to have the slightest bit of self-awareness and not ever have any regrets ... the best we can do with them is to learn and to try to share that with others. And to that end, it sounds like you're a wonderful role model. <br /><br />(And I have to know: did you <i>only</i> TP or did you fork people's lawns too?!)Elizabeth :: Bébé Suissehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12611974492044450702noreply@blogger.com