tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8819142186663515584.post2589316671572606061..comments2024-02-10T00:47:38.876-08:00Comments on Old Lady and No Baby: Other People's BabiesAmberhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16507432917936364757noreply@blogger.comBlogger26125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8819142186663515584.post-36339958419843644682013-04-02T06:55:22.515-07:002013-04-02T06:55:22.515-07:00There's our Amber that we know and love! A ve...There's our Amber that we know and love! A very well written blog that shows your difficulty of mixed emotions but is overrode by the love in your heart!!!!! The pics<br />were beautiful and really showed all of the love you both have for the little ones in your life!!!! It's going to happen for you!!! Love you!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8819142186663515584.post-75034902735101447832013-02-22T06:41:05.031-08:002013-02-22T06:41:05.031-08:00Our home is divided, my DH is a duck fan, and my n...Our home is divided, my DH is a duck fan, and my nephew plays football for CAL. But deep down I am a Beaver Believer! I really thought our football team had it this year! Maybe next! ;-) wherethebleepisourstorkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07271670155545574441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8819142186663515584.post-33471426314365842202013-02-09T22:57:20.729-08:002013-02-09T22:57:20.729-08:00You are so strong and awesome!You are so strong and awesome!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16076233862135803049noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8819142186663515584.post-53602234947036910692013-02-09T15:41:25.630-08:002013-02-09T15:41:25.630-08:00I'm in total agreement with you. I have a very...I'm in total agreement with you. I have a very good friend who got pregnant 3 months before I did, and then I miscarried. I couldn't imagine not going to her shower or not seeing her baby. Yes, I did cry when I came home, but for the sadness of my loss, not jealousy. <br /><br />Your nieces and nephews are beautiful kids. I hope that you can give them a cousin someday. I wish that I could have spent time with my brother's children, the only nieces I have, but relations with his ex wife were...complicated. I miss the time we could have spent with them.Chickenpighttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09442755180328605920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8819142186663515584.post-64104804070897215932013-02-08T12:25:27.769-08:002013-02-08T12:25:27.769-08:00Thank you :)Thank you :)Amberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16507432917936364757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8819142186663515584.post-60618251257518759352013-02-08T12:22:25.900-08:002013-02-08T12:22:25.900-08:00I am so glad you get to be an Auntie too! It trul...I am so glad you get to be an Auntie too! It truly is wonderful! I get told all the time that my oldest niece looks like me. My husband calls her his "little Amber."Amberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16507432917936364757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8819142186663515584.post-25515403263365596872013-02-08T12:20:41.432-08:002013-02-08T12:20:41.432-08:00Awww, I think based on what you just wrote, that y...Awww, I think based on what you just wrote, that you are probably doing a pretty good job of handling it. I myself tend to jealous and sad, but then I kick myself in the butt and get over it. When my sister told me she was pregnant the other day, I cried all the way home and spent the night feeling sorry for myself and all woe is me. Then the next day I called and told her that while I was happy for her, it really really sucked for me. I didn't want to just pretend it was all okay. We talked about it, and then I got over it. I decided to just be happy that I was going to have a new baby to love on, because I really love those babies and being an Auntie!Amberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16507432917936364757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8819142186663515584.post-65277714235426438552013-02-08T12:16:58.088-08:002013-02-08T12:16:58.088-08:00Thanks Toni. That really means a lot. I've b...Thanks Toni. That really means a lot. I've been thinking about you too!!! Congrats on your pregnancy!Amberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16507432917936364757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8819142186663515584.post-7072647374275309292013-02-08T12:16:02.117-08:002013-02-08T12:16:02.117-08:00Haha! Yes! Go BEAVS!Haha! Yes! Go BEAVS!Amberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16507432917936364757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8819142186663515584.post-52524703833329947372013-02-08T12:14:36.676-08:002013-02-08T12:14:36.676-08:00Thank you! It's really nice to know that some...Thank you! It's really nice to know that someone else views it the same as me. It's not that I don't cry and feel sorry for myself at times, because I do, but it just doesn't effect me too much to be around other pregnant women or their babies. Of course, it is kind of dependant on how they act though. If someone is rude or were to rub it in my face, I would probably feel differently about it then.Amberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16507432917936364757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8819142186663515584.post-27041935878074242312013-02-08T07:39:33.108-08:002013-02-08T07:39:33.108-08:00Such sweet kids! And it's lovely to see you an...Such sweet kids! And it's lovely to see you and your husband, laughing and so happy together! Those kids sure are lucky to have you guys as such fabulous aunt and uncle. Thanks for sharing. Sadiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14325203869605294768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8819142186663515584.post-12661847576470115702013-02-08T03:34:13.257-08:002013-02-08T03:34:13.257-08:00I agree. my sisters have kids and those kids i fee...I agree. my sisters have kids and those kids i feel like they came from me. some look and act like me. it is the best. i think it all depends on the support that you get from others. but i agree you dont want to miss out on those kids because that is an important relationship! and kids need love plain and simple and we add to their lives!Puzzle peacehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02970158904527521977noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8819142186663515584.post-65030629020491817392013-02-07T10:50:39.691-08:002013-02-07T10:50:39.691-08:00So sweet! Love getting to know you guys and your ...So sweet! Love getting to know you guys and your babies better!Jamiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00722422450633132684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8819142186663515584.post-35708778742222972662013-02-07T09:36:22.898-08:002013-02-07T09:36:22.898-08:00This is such a great post, Amber. The love you hav...This is such a great post, Amber. The love you have for these kids is so obvious and they are very lucky to have an aunt like you. Heather C.https://www.blogger.com/profile/07777215485647686801noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8819142186663515584.post-3206313785552009092013-02-07T09:33:04.031-08:002013-02-07T09:33:04.031-08:00Wow. I am in awe of the amazing way you deal with ...Wow. I am in awe of the amazing way you deal with all of this. I wish I had your attitude. I am always happy for people when they get pregnant, but many times the jealousy and sadness for myself takes over. I am trying to get a handle on it because I don't like being this bitter person. I really, really want to be happy for other people. I even told my husband recently that when I see a FB pregnancy announcement now, I am not only jealous of the pregnancy but jealous of the people who get to be genuinely happy for the couple. I miss that and hope some day I get it back.JenShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00056681492831041470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8819142186663515584.post-3868547924040007822013-02-07T07:34:21.739-08:002013-02-07T07:34:21.739-08:00Go Beavs!!! Great post! Thanks for reminding me ho...Go Beavs!!! Great post! Thanks for reminding me how important the kids that are in my life are!wherethebleepisourstorkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07271670155545574441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8819142186663515584.post-83970732775382862162013-02-07T07:15:52.933-08:002013-02-07T07:15:52.933-08:00I have so much respect and admiration for you. Amb...I have so much respect and admiration for you. Amber you are such a strong woman filled with determination and kindness. I keep you in my thoughts.Just Thttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06315564549299993908noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8819142186663515584.post-13732317734104974362013-02-07T07:11:04.246-08:002013-02-07T07:11:04.246-08:00I can totally relate to this post, and I feel the ...I can totally relate to this post, and I feel the same way as you. I've also thought about this issue when I read other people's blogs talking about their feelings towards pregnant women and babies, and I could never relate. It is nice to read about another woman who feels the same way as I do. Of course I agree with you that everyone is different and everyone deals with things differently, but I'm glad to know that you are in a good place :)Gypsy Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13026496787029080243noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8819142186663515584.post-3921750118416656512013-02-07T06:47:23.347-08:002013-02-07T06:47:23.347-08:00Beautiful post ((HUGS))Beautiful post ((HUGS))Janet Off Kilterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18064947474835725800noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8819142186663515584.post-78612601193797872212013-02-07T05:05:39.162-08:002013-02-07T05:05:39.162-08:00I think this is a great post. I know for me, bein...I think this is a great post. I know for me, being around my niece is the most awesome thing in the world and quite ironically it makes me forget about infertility for a while. I find it different with friends' kids though...but I don't think it's about the kids. We have a couple of friends who just don't get it and being around them and their son is very hard because of the stuff they say sometimes. Actually, now you've just inspired my post for today! Thanks!Aramishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12275274008426941898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8819142186663515584.post-57672625505082837402013-02-07T05:00:17.465-08:002013-02-07T05:00:17.465-08:00I love this post. I think that infertiles go thro...I love this post. I think that infertiles go through stages of grief - the final stage being acceptance. Accepting you are infertile and others are not doesn't mean you are surrendering in any way - I think it just means you're able to say "I have this disease. I won't let it rule my life. I can still appreciate the people and things around me." I'm sure it gets hard at times. Everyone goes through periods of "why me?" but it's important to still be able to find selfless happiness for others. Putter Piehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05373847715730834084noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8819142186663515584.post-327287552689054312013-02-06T23:03:11.086-08:002013-02-06T23:03:11.086-08:00Such a great outlook to have! Such a great outlook to have! Staciehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01471803757485977959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8819142186663515584.post-6437586951877971962013-02-06T20:39:48.596-08:002013-02-06T20:39:48.596-08:00Thank you! I worried about how this post would co...Thank you! I worried about how this post would come across, so it is nice to know you liked it. It's not always easy to be happy for other people when you are so sad for yourself, but it truly is a better place to be. <br /><br />Sorry to hear about your douchy friend. Sometimes there really are just certain people you shouldn't be around. That is her loss!Amberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16507432917936364757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8819142186663515584.post-35159743906816943532013-02-06T20:19:46.300-08:002013-02-06T20:19:46.300-08:00Ohhhhhh what a lovely post!!!
There are times that...Ohhhhhh what a lovely post!!!<br />There are times that I have to step away from others' joy, but it's not because I don't want them to have it, it just makes me sad for a short period for my circumstance. This has not happened with close friends or relatives. <br />I did have one friend that was douchey to me that I finally let myself say "hey it's not the baby I'm running away from, it's her." (Given the fact that even our fertile friends got away from her, I feel confident in my decision.) <br /><br />I understand both sides of the coin. If you know your limits, then that is your best guide. <br /><br />Simply adore this post! Hopefully people aren't missing out on the happiness of family and close friends. A Passage to Babyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13190701499572333220noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8819142186663515584.post-68639561534097338922013-02-06T20:03:52.180-08:002013-02-06T20:03:52.180-08:00Believe me, I've spent plenty of time feeling ...Believe me, I've spent plenty of time feeling sorry for myself and shed many tears. I was upset just this last Saturday when my sister told me she's pregnant. I just forced myself to get over it quickly. I find it to be so much easier on my emotions and my own personal happiness and well being, to make a conscious effect to find a way to be happy for them - to find the blessing in things.<br /><br />If everyone waited for me to catch up to them, nobody would have any kids! Lol! I never felt old until the last couple years. I mean really, 38 is NOT old!! But in the baby making world, it is. Amberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16507432917936364757noreply@blogger.com